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David Conroy's avatar

Rex- I am not one who writes comments or letters to the editor. I effortlessly resist these urges. I am a regular reader of your column, however, and with each of your installments, I get another urge to write you. It turns out the these urges, like X-Rays, accumulate in your system becoming harder and harder to resist. Today’s essay is no less a relevant, thought-provoking, and poetically written piece that I regularly find in your writings. At first i read you pieces occasionally, then regularly, then i quoted a portion to my wife; now, as each arrives in my in-box, I read it out loud as we share your essay. Such a reading is followed by discussion as the NYTimes sits idly on the couch. Thank you Rex. You will not hear from me for a long time.

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Judy Bentley's avatar

I often think, too, that war would not happen with women in charge, but the solution is not for all men to back off! Think of so many examples of courageous opposition to dictatorship. Sometimes a voice is all we have. Not sure backing off would set the right example although we do hear that it's time to let minority voices speak and back off there. Have you read Tim Egan's new book on the KKK in Indiana? Alarming to say the least. In that case a courageous woman did sound the alarm but there were others before her, men, who spoke out, too.

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Judy Bentley's avatar

This analysis and defense is much appreciated, Rex. Paired with my reading of Timothy Egan's Fever in the Heartland this week it is also alarming in reflecting the attitudes toward women that extreme conservatism promotes. Over my lifetime, I have watched and benefited from the emergence of women ministers and leaders in UCC churches, especially. I didn't realize your father left ministry early because of the "backward" trends. My father, too, as you know, left ministry early and found a more compatible home in the academic world, but he also still brought his questioning faith to shaping Methodist Churches he attended.

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REX SMITH's avatar

Thank you, Judy. I think there's much to be said for the course of ministry chosen by your dad and by my brother -- who was also ordained and held three graduate theological degrees, but pursued a career in education, like my Uncle Bob. I'm about to the point of thinking that the whole world would be better off if men would just sit down and shut up. Really, would a woman invade Ukraine or brag about grabbing genitals, or sexually abuse parishioners, as so many Southern Baptist and Catholic clergy did? Maybe I should set an example by backing off entirely. Not serious there, but you know why I feel that way. In any case, I so appreciate it that you take the time to read The Upstate American.

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SusannaDana's avatar

Your pieces are always interesting and worth reading; affirming my life view but with extra foundations and background. Thank you, Rex. And I share them widely.

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jfmr42@gmail.com's avatar

What David Conroy said! Beautifully done as always. Thank You!

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Stephen Murray's avatar

Wow! What a nice piece of writing. Thanks, Rex.

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